Another year

Tonight I lit a candle to mark mum’s third yahrzeit

Mum passed away three years ago and I miss her each and every day. Some years ago I asked her to write down all she knew of her maternal and paternal family. Then I asked her to write about her childhood, her experiences during the War including her evacuation to Oxford. She wrote of her adolescence, young married life and later life. She also took on the task of putting hundreds of old photographs into albums in chronological order. As with everything mum did she never complained but did it willingly for her children and grandchildren and great grandchildren.

The three of us 30 years ago
Mum at 80
Cool in the 60s
With a beloved cousin – also much missed
With a dear friend with whom she had great fun
Captain of the golf club
Reading to great grandchildren

When mum was 89 I bought her a memory book which she filled in, day by day, for 9 months. My brother and I have read all the entries which I have just finished typing into one document. Mum did not have a bad word for anyone. She expressed gratitude for her many loving friends and for her family. She was compassionate and funny and, she wrote that she was horrified at the election of Donald Trump back in 2017! She loved football and followed Chelsea and at nearly 90 she went to watch her adult grandson’s football team play in their amateur cup final. There is so much more to say and over the next few months I will be compiling a family memoir using mum’s writings and 250 pages of emails that dad sent to his grandson over a five year period. Mum and dad appreciated every day and lived life to the full whilst also caring for their parents, children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. I miss the laughs I had with mum, the secrets we told each other, her soft hands and her down to earth wisdom. We were so lucky to have had her in our lives for so long.

16 thoughts on “Another year

  1. She was a lovely person Gillian and I feel lucky to have known her.
    Sending this with love.
    Kate

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  2. So True Gillian ! Part of my life too. Remember when I came for their 80th birthday dinner.  My turn to be 80 😱😅💕Envoyé de mon mobile

    • Of course we remember. We told dad just before the party as we were worried he might have a heart attack! It made the evening so special.
      I will be 69 on Monday and you 80. Extraordinary!

  3. Beautifully said
    Wishing you long life
    Your mum was a beautiful lady inside and out with a fabulous smile which you have too
    Xx
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